Resources on coming out

Books that gave me insight into being gay and learning to be honest about it:

"Just Tell the Truth:  Questions Families Ask When Gay Married Men Come Out," by Dr. Terry L. Norman; Kansas City: Prehension Publications,1998; $14.95.
-- Dr. Norman, a licensed professional counselor and United Methodist minister, gives a very personal account of his struggle to come out as a gay man after a 20-year marriage.  As someone from a religious background, I related to Dr. Norman's struggle to understand that God does not condemn a person for a gay identity, although he holds homosexuals to the same standards of personal conduct as heterosexuals.  Dr. Norman's web site is

"Becoming Gay: The Journey to Self-Acceptance," by Richard A. Isay, M.D.; New York: Henry Holt and Company, 1997, $13.95.  Excellent overview of the process of coming out, including a chapter on "The Dilemma of Heterosexually-Married Homosexual Men." (SoTHAT's what we are, eh?)

"Coming Out: An Act of Love.  An Inspiring Call to Action for Gay Men, Lesbians and Those Who Care," by Rob Eichberg, Ph.D.; New York: Penguin Books, 1991, $13.95. The gripping part of this book is the letters Dr. Eichberg was allowed to publish containing correspondence between men and women who are coming out and their family and friends.

Web sites:
The Radical Honesty Web Site
Bisexual Married Men's Association
Coming Out Guide for Gay Dads
Planet Out's Coming Out Message Boards
The Gay Dad
Religious Tolerance Web Site's Section on Homosexuality

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"Whether he denies or is aware of his sexual orientation, any homosexual man who marries does so, in my clinical experience, because of early self-esteem injury that has caused him to see his homosexuality as bad, sinful or sick."

-- Richard A. Isay, M.D.
"Becoming Gay: The Journey to Self-Acceptance"